I was a Porn Star

Until I wasn't. He didn’t like to watch porn when he was eating. It made his stomach curl. Other than that, porn was fair-game at any time of the day. I’d often wonder just how many variations of Cowgirl Beats the Doggy or Double Penetration a person could handle watching before it became a brain … Continue reading I was a Porn Star

The Most Important Relationship of Your Life

I bet you know what I’m going to tell you. Well, maybe. We never stop learning through our relationships with people. Or rather, people never stop teaching us. It has taken a long time for me to learn how to trust my intuition. It’s been a journey paved with dark nights of the soul, as … Continue reading The Most Important Relationship of Your Life

Write with Feeling: How Relationships Bring Depth to Our Characters

Do you struggle to create full-bodied characters? Churning out words, outlining and wrapping your brain around plot twists, story themes and arcs can often be mentally exhausting, and then we have to make sure our characters have depth enough to resonate with our readers. "I know the feelings but I don't know how to express … Continue reading Write with Feeling: How Relationships Bring Depth to Our Characters

Is it Real? You May Never Know Unless You Walk Away

Sometimes, you have to let it go. When I first met my husband, we both had ex-partners floating around the sidelines of our lives. Having people on the sidelines is like moonlighting — they appear in your life as distractions, or as leisurely pursuits with mutual understanding that the relationship is on the fly. That’s … Continue reading Is it Real? You May Never Know Unless You Walk Away

Love on Time

Let’s assume you live for 100 years. Kim: Let’s talk love. What does love mean to you, Mr X.? Xavier: Dear Lord, I’m either a really good person to ask about love or really bad. I guess I’m really good to ask because the synapses of my hopelessly romantic mind are always charged; sometimes overloaded … Continue reading Love on Time

Is All Fair in Love And War?

Don’t let it steal your light. My mother was severely abused as a child. She is a twin. Her sister was born first. Then, it became apparent there was another baby — my mother. It was during the late 1940’s, a time when determining a twin pregnancy wasn’t as easy as it is today. My … Continue reading Is All Fair in Love And War?