The Most Important Relationship of Your Life

I bet you know what I’m going to tell you. Well, maybe. We never stop learning through our relationships with people. Or rather, people never stop teaching us. It has taken a long time for me to learn how to trust my intuition. It’s been a journey paved with dark nights of the soul, as … Continue reading The Most Important Relationship of Your Life

Love or Fear — You Get to Choose Every Time

When I was fifteen years old, one of my friends decided to hate me. I had known her since Kindergarten and we had been close. I’d spent so much time at her house that her family was an extension of my own. Including her pudgy Golden Retriever, Candy-girl, who shared a mutual adoration with me. … Continue reading Love or Fear — You Get to Choose Every Time

Write with Feeling: How Relationships Bring Depth to Our Characters

Do you struggle to create full-bodied characters? Churning out words, outlining and wrapping your brain around plot twists, story themes and arcs can often be mentally exhausting, and then we have to make sure our characters have depth enough to resonate with our readers. "I know the feelings but I don't know how to express … Continue reading Write with Feeling: How Relationships Bring Depth to Our Characters

Is it Real? You May Never Know Unless You Walk Away

Sometimes, you have to let it go. When I first met my husband, we both had ex-partners floating around the sidelines of our lives. Having people on the sidelines is like moonlighting — they appear in your life as distractions, or as leisurely pursuits with mutual understanding that the relationship is on the fly. That’s … Continue reading Is it Real? You May Never Know Unless You Walk Away

Awakening the Heart Can Do Anything

But it takes a whole lot of courage to get there. A rustic wooden heart dangles on a solitary, wrought iron candelabra that my son crafted during a metal workshop lesson some years ago. It’s rough and wore-torn, and it leans slightly to one side but I love it. It stands atop a chest of … Continue reading Awakening the Heart Can Do Anything

Love on Time

Let’s assume you live for 100 years. Kim: Let’s talk love. What does love mean to you, Mr X.? Xavier: Dear Lord, I’m either a really good person to ask about love or really bad. I guess I’m really good to ask because the synapses of my hopelessly romantic mind are always charged; sometimes overloaded … Continue reading Love on Time